Teaching middle and high schoolers to respect physical boundaries is essential for keeping everyone safe and civil. When students learn about boundaries, they know when to give others space and how to say no if they’re uncomfortable. This helps them have better friendships and feel safe around others. Parents and mentors should teach youth about boundaries through activities such as after-school activities, social groups, movements, and councils.
It is important to recognize that many individuals/youth do not engage in discussions regarding their physical boundaries. As we can see from childmind.org, “As [kids] get older, and social interaction gets more complex, it’s not enough to just learn the rules. They need to learn to set boundaries for themselves and respect those of others. And that takes recognizing what others want and need — and expressing what they want and need, too.” It’s important to know and respect everyone’s boundaries when we are young; it helps us build better friendships and grow as people.
I can relate, because in my school, disagreement over physical touch is common. There are several places where this happens frequently, such as in classrooms, outside on the school campus, and in lines when transitions occur. Additionally, it can occur anywhere in school in general.
Non-consensual physical touch means touching someone without their permission, and it is not okay. We need more stringent rules in school to prevent this from happening and to teach kids about the importance of consent. By teaching middle and high schoolers to respect each other’s boundaries, we can create a safer and kinder environment for everyone. According to missingkids.org, teaching your kids about boundaries should include: “Reminding children that their bodies are their own, letting children know you will listen, keeping the adults in your child’s life in the loop, and being a good role model.”
It is paramount to teach middle and high school students how to recognize and respect the boundaries of others. Knowing when to give someone space and how to say no when they feel uncomfortable reflects consideration for others. This awareness can lead to healthier friendships and a stronger sense of safety in social situations. Parents and adults should encourage children to express their feelings openly and honestly regarding their boundaries.
